Ep 10: Dead Bedroom to Deep Connection: Fixing Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships

It's been weeks. Maybe months. You're wondering what happened to the woman who used to want you. She's wondering what happened to the guy who used to romance her. And neither of you is talking about it.

In this episode, Dennis Procopio (The Bro Coach®) and Andrew Bontz get primal. After diving deep into philosophy, spirituality, and the Man Code, it's time to talk about the thing most guys won't admit they're struggling with: why you're not getting sex, and what you're actually getting wrong.

This isn't about tricks or tactics. It's about understanding that she needs emotional connection before physical intimacy, and you need to check the romantic boxes before you check hers. Dennis breaks down why communication is the gateway to better sex, why performance kills intimacy, and what it actually takes to go from dead bedroom to deep connection.

TIMESTAMPS 0:00 - Intro: Let's Talk About Getting Laid 2:21 - Why Sex Matters (And Why It's Not the Priority) 6:38 - The Signs She's Not Romantically Fulfilled 8:18 - The Typical Scenario: Kids, Work, Doom Scrolling, No Sex 14:30 - Why Grabbing Boobs Doesn't Work (What She Actually Needs) 22:45 - The Emotional Connection Before Physical Intimacy 31:15 - Taking Chances and Reintroducing Romance 38:20 - Why Most Guys Are Performers (And Why That Kills Intimacy) 42:50 - Communication During Sex: Ask What She Wants 48:22 - If You Can't Laugh During Sex, You're Doing It Wrong 51:23 - The Porn Problem and Talking About Desires 53:10 - Check the Romantic Boxes First 54:34 - Closing: Happy Holidays and New Year's Resolutions

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Why men prioritize sex and women prioritize communication (and why both matter)
• The signs your wife/girlfriend is not romantically fulfilled
• Why "grabbing boobs" isn't foreplay (what emotional connection actually looks like)
• How to reintroduce romance and take chances on intimacy
• Why being a performer kills connection (and what presence actually means)
• The importance of communication during sex: ask what she wants
• Why you need to be able to laugh during sex
• Check all the romantic boxes before expecting physical intimacy
• How to have the conversation about wanting more sex without making it weird

WATCH THIS IF YOU

• It's been weeks or months since you had sex with your partner
• You're frustrated but don't know how to talk about it
• You think you're doing everything right but she's still not interested
• You're making advances but getting shut down
• You prioritize sex over emotional connection
• You're a performer in bed instead of being present
• You want practical advice on fixing a dead bedroom

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Transcript

00:00:00:06 - 00:00:28:18
Andrew
Most men want more. More clarity. More respect. More control over their lives. But few know how to get it. Welcome to the pro coach podcast with Dennis Procopio, the founder of Man Up Life Coaching and the man behind thousands of transformed lives. Not red pill, not therapy. Just the evolved man's blueprint for strength, presence and purpose. Welcome to another episode of the Bro Coach podcast.

00:00:28:20 - 00:00:37:08
Andrew
I am Andrew Bontz. I'm here with Dennis Procopio. Episode number ten. So happy to be here with you, man. Thank you, Dennis, for being here, man.

00:00:37:10 - 00:00:39:22
Dennis
Hey, man. Thanks for having me. Let's go.

00:00:39:24 - 00:01:07:07
Andrew
Yeah. So, we talked a lot. So the first previous nine episodes about some pretty deep stuff and, went all over the the side of. You know what I'm talking about. Silence. And the last two episodes we talked about kind of the ten man codes. I want to go a little bit more primal today and, and talk about getting our men laid more.

00:01:07:09 - 00:01:26:05
Andrew
And, I have a lot of there's a lot of guys out there that have been in areas for a bit, and they're not getting the action that they want to see. So, I want to kind of hear your perspective as you're talking to your men. That or they're in a relationship that they're not necessarily getting a needs met.

00:01:26:07 - 00:01:40:10
Andrew
And they need to figure this stuff out. So what kind of how where does this where should this conversation start, with kind of that key off?

00:01:40:12 - 00:02:21:09
Dennis
I guess I'd start with understanding the priority, sex in a physical, and emotional relationship. I think that's a good place to start. I coach guys, one of the things that they love about dating in the beginning is how good the sex is. And so, women, one of the things they love is how awesome the flirting is and how nicely dressed he is and how good he smells and how charming it is.

00:02:21:09 - 00:02:56:21
Dennis
And he interacts really nicely with all of her friends and family. And in both cases, I think that when guys hit, definitely by the two year mark, there is a sort of law of diminishing returns where the guys like, hey, I don't feel like we're having as much sex as we used to. And also, you're all like, hot and jerk, and now you're just kind of like, you know, hair in this scrunchie and shriek in pajamas.

00:02:56:23 - 00:03:49:03
Dennis
And she's like, okay, well, if we're going to be criticizing, I kind of feel like you were this really nice, attentive, present, talkative guy, and now you want to spend more time doing pretty much anything other than talking to me or doing any romantic stuff. And that's where. In relationships, I see a big problem because he feels validated when there's sex and she feels validated when there's a relationship, which for her means like communication and sharing and stuff.

00:03:49:05 - 00:03:53:16
Dennis
So sex is.

00:03:53:16 - 00:04:10:16
Dennis
Something that's nice to have in a relationship, and I think you should try to have it, but I think that prioritizing it over communication is a very typical fails for men.

00:04:10:18 - 00:04:34:18
Andrew
So where, you know, most of the men listening to this have been in a relationship for a bit, right. And what are your what maybe some of the symptoms that because I think like most men would say like, hey, I'm addicted to care, right. Like I think that maybe there's some sort of disconnect there. Where do you think the disconnection.

00:04:34:20 - 00:04:36:02
Dennis
From the.

00:04:36:04 - 00:04:56:04
Andrew
Maybe some signals from the man, the side of things, like, she's not. Doesn't feel like she's showing up on the emotional connection or the communication side of things like what are what are some signals that he's seeing right now?

00:04:56:06 - 00:04:58:05
Dennis
The signals that he's seeing.

00:04:58:05 - 00:04:58:14
Dennis
That.

00:04:58:14 - 00:05:02:02
Dennis
She's.

00:05:02:04 - 00:05:07:20
Dennis
Just to make sure I understand the question here signals that that he's seeing from her.

00:05:07:22 - 00:05:09:02
Dennis
That she's less.

00:05:09:02 - 00:05:09:09
Dennis
Than.

00:05:09:09 - 00:05:11:19
Dennis
Happy.

00:05:11:21 - 00:05:36:00
Andrew
Yeah. Maybe the key is like communication is the issue, right? Like, she she doesn't feel like maybe take it to the day in the life of the dude where he's like, the dudes. You know, it's been four weeks since I got laid, and the woman is like, at all, you know, she's run into her sweat pants. Come, come post work.

00:05:36:00 - 00:05:39:15
Andrew
Write to her. The divides pretty far, right.

00:05:39:16 - 00:05:44:14
Dennis
So, I say.

00:05:44:16 - 00:05:49:00
Dennis
Okay, I'm going to answer your question.

00:05:49:02 - 00:05:51:04
Dennis
But the sign.

00:05:51:06 - 00:06:38:03
Dennis
The sign that she's not. Romantically fulfilled is that she's not smiling. She's not touching you as much. She's, tense. She's stressed, she's complaining. I mean, they're not really invisible signs to fill up. You're living with an angry hag instead of a hot girlfriend. Then there's your sign. You know, like, it's not a mystery. It's. But there's, you know, there are different versions of relationships.

00:06:38:04 - 00:06:45:06
Dennis
If you're a guy who's in a relationship that's a relatively healthy relationship. If you ask questions.

00:06:45:08 - 00:06:49:04
Dennis
They have kids. You. Yeah.

00:06:49:06 - 00:06:52:21
Dennis
You know, because you have a good guy. And I'm sorry.

00:06:52:23 - 00:06:57:16
Andrew
As you say, most of the guys listen to this. Their kids. Yeah.

00:06:57:18 - 00:07:04:21
Dennis
A kid or kids is going to mean less time.

00:07:04:23 - 00:07:13:00
Dennis
Let's create a fictitious scenario. You have a woman who.

00:07:13:02 - 00:07:42:02
Dennis
Does the majority of the kid stuff. I don't know what that is. Packs lunches. Lunch or lunches is on top of the kids, you know, health insurance and health care and dental and doctor's appointments and all of that. Right. You have a guy who has a job, works. Maybe she has a job, too. Maybe she does a.

00:07:42:04 - 00:08:18:07
Dennis
She has a certain number of friends that she's trying to stay in touch with, either through socials or other. Like in face to face in person. Him. Same. Probably fewer. And somewhere along the way. She goes to bed. He doesn't come with. He's on the couch doom scrolling or play Call of Duty or some mindless activity because he's waiting for everybody else to go to bed so that he can have a little me time and just kind of decompress.

00:08:18:09 - 00:08:31:00
Dennis
And a day turns into what, week in a week turns into a month. And before you know, it. They're like, how missed three months and we haven't had sex.

00:08:31:02 - 00:08:34:12
Dennis
Well.

00:08:34:14 - 00:08:59:13
Dennis
When he tries to make advances, it's usually like grabbing a boob. Or or just putting his hand, you know, in Twitter legs or something, grabbing her butt like it's very. Since you said, kind of crude. I mean, I'll just take it there. It's just like, you know. Hey, a good okay. And she's not in a healthy relationship.

00:08:59:19 - 00:09:18:07
Dennis
She's probably not interested in being sexually objectified if there isn't some feeling of romance there. That's why historically, for men, porn is a picture. And women, it's an entire romance.

00:09:18:09 - 00:09:26:03
Dennis
And so. The signs that she's.

00:09:26:05 - 00:09:27:12
Dennis
Probably not going to be.

00:09:27:12 - 00:09:28:18
Dennis
Available.

00:09:28:20 - 00:09:56:12
Dennis
For sexual advances in is a lot of conflating, a lot of negative body language and a lot of physical detachment, and called the signs that, she's interested. On the other hand, are ones smiling, eye contact, flirting, what you'd expect on a.

00:09:56:12 - 00:10:01:01
Dennis
Date you can't have, and you really can't.

00:10:01:03 - 00:10:04:03
Dennis
Expect to have one without the other.

00:10:04:05 - 00:10:06:03
Andrew
So as you're coaching guys like.

00:10:06:05 - 00:10:11:04
Dennis
We're okay, what?

00:10:11:06 - 00:10:36:12
Andrew
Where do you take when they're saying, you know, this kind of this narrative, like how, we've been married for a bit that like it when I want she, you know, I listen to her and we talk like how as you go into, like, solution mode and guide guys through a scenario like this. I mean, I hear what you're saying, too.

00:10:36:12 - 00:10:59:08
Andrew
It's like there's a big difference between, like, what men think of as foreplay and what women think is a foreplay. Right? And guys don't understand the romance novels and women, most women don't understand pornography, right? Like like why? Why do you guys look at that stuff? It's. Kind of, you know, someone, you know their team, you know? I mean, but.

00:10:59:08 - 00:11:13:14
Andrew
So as you're coaching guys on your day to day, like, how do you take them from where they're at to where they want to be?

00:11:13:16 - 00:11:39:07
Dennis
So there's there are different types of so let's say the guy says, hey, I'm having trouble in the, in the getting laid department. Okay. So if they're in a relationship, like you say, our target demographic is someone who is, I mean, and just to be fair, we do have the target demographic, but there's also there's the guy who's not in a relationship.

00:11:39:07 - 00:12:03:01
Dennis
And so, you know, so that guy, it's, hey, you need to make some friends and get out there. But for the, you know, and that's a whole different conversation. And in fact, on an Instagram post recently, there was some girl on there who's like, super pretty, but she had this, like, short haircut that was like dyed green or whatever.

00:12:03:01 - 00:12:11:05
Dennis
And she's like, okay, I have a question like, why are guys like not.

00:12:11:07 - 00:12:11:24
Dennis
Like.

00:12:12:01 - 00:12:41:07
Dennis
Showing me any love? Is it the hair? Am I like giving off lesbian vibes? Is that the same? And a whole bunch of dudes were like, yeah, with that haircut and the the green like that. Just your faults and you're 100% given off lesbian vibe. There's nothing about you that suggests that you're approachable. And so I made a comment because I'm always commenting, as in a man off life coaching.

00:12:41:07 - 00:13:06:23
Dennis
So I made a comment saying, hey, in this day and age, men are afraid to approach. Sorry, but you did that to yourselves. The hashtag MeToo movement just created a boundary and men respect boundaries. So or at least we tried to, you made it clear. Don't talk to you. Don't touch. You don't work it. You don't. Nothing.

00:13:06:24 - 00:13:35:22
Dennis
So that's what we're doing. But that said, if you're interested in a guy, here's something you could do. Go up to him, say, hey, you look cute and interesting. My name is such and such. Here's my number. Would you like to get a coffee and discuss something interesting sometime? When clicked? And that's it. And I didn't say when.

00:13:35:22 - 00:14:03:03
Dennis
Quick. I think I actually used the lip biting the lip emoji. Highly effective gesture. And, and all the guys were like, dude, you just solved all this woman's problems. Why doesn't she do this? And yeah. Good question. Why not? Why doesn't she? So if you're in a relationship, well, now what happens is you've gotten through the dating period.

00:14:03:03 - 00:14:26:03
Dennis
You had a whole bunch of talking together. We had these. We really bonded and we connected. You know? And, the sex is great. But now it's a couple of years later and it's like, hey, when a home, you know, and that's not that's not really what you got to do. So if the guy says to me, hey, dude, man, I'm like, in a relationship where I feel like we're just not having sex.

00:14:26:03 - 00:14:30:18
Dennis
That way we should be like, okay, well.

00:14:30:20 - 00:14:31:03
Dennis
Are you.

00:14:31:03 - 00:14:52:17
Dennis
Trying? Are you making moves? That's number one. Are you trying? Well, no, but I kind of feel like she should, you know, she should show some interest in me. You did? Sorry, but I think the onus is always going to be on you to be like, hey, what's happening?

00:14:52:18 - 00:14:57:20
Dennis
You know, Two.

00:14:57:22 - 00:15:25:07
Dennis
If you are trying and she's rejecting you. That's a conversation. What what else would you do? Try harder. That's that's a different thing I gets it. That's not that's not it. So. Hey, I'm just curious. I don't want to make you feel better or anything, but I feel like the past couple of times I've tried to kind of get something started.

00:15:25:08 - 00:15:36:13
Dennis
I feel like you shut it down a little. Where's that conversation going? I just haven't been feeling into it lately.

00:15:36:15 - 00:15:39:13
Dennis
Okay.

00:15:39:15 - 00:16:11:10
Dennis
So since we're monogamous and stuff like, like, I do have this desire to kind of connect with you at that level, and, She's not available in that way. Then it's kind of. But, I don't know, it's a little a lot. If you just open like that, she'll tell you either. I haven't been feeling pretty. I haven't been feeling attractive.

00:16:11:12 - 00:16:12:18
Dennis
You know.

00:16:12:20 - 00:16:26:11
Dennis
I have some resentment in our relationship that's kind of keeping me from wanting that. Go there with you ever.

00:16:26:13 - 00:16:45:00
Dennis
I don't know, I mean, I'm available any time. I just kind of feel like, you know, just. We never really have the time. So depending upon which of those cases it is, there's a different strategy that you have to implement for either one. But I'm just sure it up. It always starts with communication.

00:16:45:02 - 00:16:49:02
Andrew
Which one do you see as most common of those, or.

00:16:49:04 - 00:16:54:12
Dennis
Was that you talked about.

00:16:54:14 - 00:17:16:18
Dennis
Dude, if I'm going to keep it real, like if I'm to sit here and play like, you know, I'm talking to, you know, you, but I'm really like a signaling of like with the guys listening that's different than if I just say, you want me to really answer your question, right? So I'll just answer your question. I get a significant number of dudes.

00:17:16:20 - 00:17:22:03
Dennis
More than you would think, who have performance anxiety.

00:17:22:05 - 00:17:22:24
Dennis
They don't.

00:17:23:01 - 00:17:53:12
Dennis
Whether it's that they think their dick is small or they're worried about keeping it. Or they're coming into an age where they feel like they need testosterone or they need something to kind of help. There's that conversation. So sometimes you'll have a guy who's having performance anxiety, and he's in his head. And so a conversation ensues. I see that more than you'd set it.

00:17:53:14 - 00:17:56:08
Dennis
So that's what.

00:17:56:10 - 00:18:32:22
Dennis
But for the guys who are like, nah, everything's work and I'm just trying to trying to get it and I'm not getting it. The reason is usually that she feels like she wants to be dated as a priority. It's not just assumed. Yeah, wrongly and flowery name for the wet spot. You know, like like Jennifer. I mean, she kind of got a, you know, you got a warm, warm things up here, you know, and and for guys that's like, there's.

00:18:32:22 - 00:18:35:04
Dennis
This sense.

00:18:35:04 - 00:19:01:06
Dennis
Of kind of entitlement that really bugs women, which is. Hey, we're married, so you should just spread your legs and, like, let me get my hump on any time I want. And that's super gross to women. Most women, some women, there are some women out there that are like, oh my God, I wish he, you know, just rip my legs open and screw me.

00:19:01:06 - 00:19:24:21
Dennis
That's a different thing. But for them, like me, that's a thing too. But for the majority of the guys, I would say, since, yes, the biggest thing is guys saying, I feel like our sex isn't there and women sit like I started, women saying, I feel like the romance isn't there. That's that's the number one thing, dude. That's it.

00:19:24:23 - 00:20:05:22
Andrew
So when these guys so I think number one, there's a lot of there's three different pathways here. Number one, the first scenario or it's like if there's performance anxiety or some sort of inability, whether it be from physically or mentally to to do it right, I'd rather stay away from that one, as I'm more curious on the side of things, where the scenario second scenario, you talked about where the guys that are kind of forgot how to date or stop dating or got lazy dating, like, we're I mean, I obviously the spark kind of wears off, right?

00:20:05:22 - 00:20:14:21
Andrew
A little bit towards like, maybe I should have put on a couple pounds, maybe you've put on a couple pounds or you're just fucking tired.

00:20:14:23 - 00:20:15:04
Dennis
From.

00:20:15:04 - 00:20:44:04
Andrew
Having one, two, three children running around. And it takes a lot more effort to, you know, bump uglies. When when there's a bunch of kids running around compared to when they weren't. Right. So it just becomes you have to be a little bit more strategic, you know, and if she's usually, if people are tired, you especially women, you have to maybe take a couple extra more steps than you used to.

00:20:44:04 - 00:21:09:23
Andrew
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00:21:09:23 - 00:21:32:20
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00:21:32:22 - 00:22:10:07
Dennis
First of all, I think that as a dude, I've said this recently, I said to a guy as recently as yesterday and I'm talking about like a 20 something guy, I said, if you're not having sex at least once a week, like something's off, that's just as a rule of thumb. If you're not having sex, like once a week, something's off two once every two weeks.

00:22:10:09 - 00:22:48:20
Dennis
I mean, that's still okay, but you're kind of now it's really you're in the danger zone there. And if it's more than that, something's just off. As a dude, you have a responsibility to handle your business, so you need to try to find a way to make it happen. So if the ball's getting dropped on your side, you need to do something about it, because if you're in a sexual relationship or a relationship or it's really starting to slow down, you need to handle that, right?

00:22:48:22 - 00:23:07:17
Dennis
How do you do that? One, tell your guy, look, dude. Figure out what you need to do to handle your business. And if you can't, then.

00:23:07:19 - 00:23:39:08
Dennis
We need to talk about why. But in theory, if you're with a woman, she's got a physical. You have a healthy physical relationship. She's got a need. You need to take care of your business. Like, just real talk. You've got to be able to, you know, serve it up. If you're physically able to serve it up, but you're not doing it, then you need to check in with her and ask her, you know, what's what's going wrong here?

00:23:39:10 - 00:24:01:10
Dennis
Why are we not connected? I'm my. I'm in a physical. I'm physically capable, and we're just not right. If it's a thing like you said, like, oh, she's gained a weight or whatever. Okay, so what is it, a her problem? Where are you from? Her? You in your head about the fact that she's gaining weight? 1 or 2 things need to happen.

00:24:01:14 - 00:24:27:05
Dennis
If it's so off putting for you that you need to say something, hey, or have shed a weight that's making it challenging for me to, you know, kind of get my groove on here. I'm in my head about you have egg you're getting or whatever. That's not a comfortable conversation. That's just not like, there's that's what dude is going to go to his wife and say, hey, I wrote on a screen, but I can't because you're too fat.

00:24:27:07 - 00:24:43:21
Dennis
That's not. I'm like, that's I mean, that's just not that's you don't do that. Now, what's funny is I have a client who's whose wife told him, hey, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but you get I'm getting kind of unattractive to you because you've been eating a lot of food. And when I met you, you were, like, really?

00:24:43:21 - 00:25:11:03
Dennis
Like, in good shape. And you're kind of letting yourself go. And he was like, crap, you're right. And he fixed it. So you do don't do that. But you don't. You don't do that with the woman, right? With the woman. You love her and make her feel pretty and show she'll respond to that. So. You got to kind of you got to be her friend first.

00:25:11:03 - 00:25:54:16
Dennis
Man. It's like, I don't know how else to say this. You got to be her friend first. You got to love her. And you've got to find a way to create hot, steamy, intimate moments with her. And if that means you psyching yourself into being with her when she's less than a freaking, you know, ten by Ella standards or whatever, then that's that's where you need to maybe get away from the objectification and turn in more to the feeling of being together.

00:25:54:18 - 00:26:15:16
Dennis
That's it. Sorry, that's not super like, yeah, you just take her cock and jam it in there like that. But that's not how relationships go, dude. It's not. At the end of the day, it really is about love, trust and intimacy. It's so sorry, but that's the man up answer.

00:26:15:18 - 00:26:50:15
Andrew
So I think that one of the things that I have in conversations with you over the last couple years is, is that not a lot of men are taught the how to build emotional connection, right? Where, you know, maybe you're a maybe they're a plumber, maybe they're, you know, a carpenter or whatever. And, or, you know, just kind of like, I don't know, I just, I build shit, make the money, and I come home, I'm tired.

00:26:50:15 - 00:26:53:22
Andrew
I don't really want to talk much. Right.

00:26:53:24 - 00:26:54:15
Dennis


00:26:54:17 - 00:27:00:01
Andrew
You know, like, I kind of go. I'm still out of the book that you have a lot of the guys.

00:27:00:03 - 00:27:01:24
Dennis
The Mars. Venus, you guys.

00:27:02:02 - 00:27:02:24
Andrew
Read?

00:27:03:01 - 00:27:03:19
Dennis
Yeah.

00:27:03:21 - 00:27:34:06
Andrew
So I think for the men that haven't read that book, you know, I think it'd be helpful to close that gap to. It's like, okay, I hear what you're saying. Like, yeah, okay. You need to connect you to build that romantic connection. And they have a perception of, like, I'm doing that. Like, I talk to her, she talks, I listen, I nod my head, and, you know, I go back on my phone later and, you know, ask her how her day was going.

00:27:34:08 - 00:27:45:16
Andrew
And she said, good. And I was like, great. And yeah, I'll go, I'll go watch the football game now because I asked her how her day went. Right. Like I emotionally connected right.

00:27:45:18 - 00:27:50:11
Dennis
Which is not how you do it. Right.

00:27:50:13 - 00:28:08:15
Andrew
But yeah. So I think that that that's, that's one thing that, that, you know, when I first started as a client of reading through that book, especially when I was in a relationship, or is there's some moments, how moments in that book that resonated with me. So.

00:28:08:17 - 00:28:40:08
Dennis
Yeah. So, so, you know, when I first read men Are from Mars, women are from Venus, like in the late 80s, early 90s or something. And I mean, it's kind of been around for a minute. In this day and age, you know, it's easy to kind of take a shot at the book because it's aged, you know, we're coming in at 2026 and, you know, some of the ideas that were, you know, made sense for the time can seem a little, whatever.

00:28:40:10 - 00:29:12:21
Dennis
You know, you could you could say that they're a little dated. Let's just put it that way. Right. That having been said, I still use the book because it points to a lot of things that I think are really important about foundational, like men, women, relationships. One is men historically like to avoid substantive conversation. When we're dealing with an emotion, go off and do something stupid.

00:29:12:23 - 00:29:38:19
Dennis
You know, some solve a password puzzle, you know, doom scrawl. Go tinker with the car, paint the broad side of a barn. Anything that allows us to come to terms with whatever's percolating on a back burner and go, like, why am I what? What's my deal? What am.

00:29:38:19 - 00:29:39:21
Dennis
I what?

00:29:40:00 - 00:29:44:17
Dennis
What's happening? I just don't I don't feel happy. Like, am I angry? Am I scared.

00:29:44:19 - 00:29:45:18
Dennis
Like.

00:29:45:20 - 00:30:06:10
Dennis
What's happening here? And when you finally wrap your head around it and you go, oh, okay, it's this. All right, well, I got a solution for that. That's not too bad. All right. And then you feel like a good boy, and then you go in there, you're like, hey, hello. I'm here. I'm back. I went and processed my emotion or whatever the hell it was, and now I feel better.

00:30:06:12 - 00:30:13:14
Dennis
And that's where the woman is like, yeah, too little, too late. You abandoned me when I needed to communicate. Why don't you ever talk to me in the moment?

00:30:13:16 - 00:30:14:16
Dennis
That little. No, no no no.

00:30:14:18 - 00:30:36:21
Dennis
No no no no no. Right. And so Mars Venus says that what he does is he removes himself and he goes, and he has to cave time until he solves this problem. What women do, on the contrary, is they don't want to solve the problem until they feel better. And feeling better means talking about the problem, which was completely does not make sense to me.

00:30:36:21 - 00:30:53:13
Dennis
It just doesn't make sense to men. I want to talk about my problem. All right. What's the problem? It's this. Okay, well, here's how you fix it. I didn't ask you for a solution. I just said I wanted to talk to you about problem. What is the point of talking about the problem if you're not going to solve it?

00:30:53:19 - 00:31:16:20
Dennis
Why do you always do this? Why can't you just listen? I am listening, I can repeat everything you just said. I wasn't asking you to be able to parrot everything that I just said. I was saying, can you just listen now? I'm really mad. Okay, well, why are you getting mad at me? I've been sitting here for two hours talking to you about a problem you could have fixed in the first five minutes of complaining about it.

00:31:16:22 - 00:31:21:10
Dennis
Right? I mean, that's the classic. It's so stupid. But we keep going.

00:31:21:10 - 00:31:35:04
Dennis
Through a version of this conversation over and over and over again. So the smart guy is the guy who figures out that what she wants to do is literally talk. That's it. And he's like, so.

00:31:35:04 - 00:31:41:11
Dennis
I'm supposed to sit there and listen to her?

00:31:41:13 - 00:31:51:09
Dennis
About her feelings that her frickin lawnmower isn't working instead of just fixing the lawnmower? Yes, that's what you're supposed to do.

00:31:51:11 - 00:31:51:20
Dennis
Well that's.

00:31:51:20 - 00:32:15:14
Dennis
Stupid. Okay, then go get a frickin boyfriend instead of girlfriend, because that's how men and women work. Now, somewhere there's a woman out there who's like, I find this to be sexist and binary and heteronormative. You know, my wife is the pussy in my relationship, and I'm the one who's like, just sack up, you little, you know, whatever, whatever, whatever.

00:32:15:16 - 00:32:16:21
Dennis
Yeah, that's true.

00:32:16:23 - 00:32:33:01
Dennis
There are women who have a, an impetus toward being problem solvers, and there are guys who have a tendency to be worriers and want to talk through their feelings. But as a.

00:32:33:01 - 00:32:34:19
Dennis
Rule.

00:32:34:21 - 00:32:58:11
Dennis
As a rule, if you ask a woman what's wrong, she'll say nothing. If you ask her again, she'll say, it's really bad. And that's what I really want to talk about it. If you ask her a third time, she said, well, there was this one thing, and then the next thing you know, she's off to the races and your job is to say is to just listen, but actually listen.

00:32:58:13 - 00:33:03:10
Dennis
Actually listen. What is listen? I mean, it means hear the sounds.

00:33:03:12 - 00:33:05:08
Dennis
Okay?

00:33:05:10 - 00:33:32:17
Dennis
Hear those sounds, and don't interrupt her. And then when she's done to hopefully be able to say, well, that sounds difficult or I'm sure that that's frustrating for you or whatever, and to offer something that basically says, I understand your frustration or you're feeling I'm here with you, I am present, I'm a witness to your feelings.

00:33:32:19 - 00:33:35:17
Dennis
That's it.

00:33:35:19 - 00:33:53:22
Dennis
And then she'll say, thank you for listening. You'll say, no worries. And she'll say, do you want to watch a movie? And then you say, yeah, and then you can snuggle. And then next thing you know, yeah, now you start canoodling a little bit and say, hey, do you want to take this to the bedroom? And if there's any wine around, that helps.

00:33:53:22 - 00:33:58:08
Dennis
But I mean, if we're being completely honest, like there's there's.

00:33:58:08 - 00:33:59:16
Dennis
Really no the.

00:33:59:16 - 00:34:24:11
Dennis
You know, there's a reason the wine exists for a reason. You get a drink or three and or and it's a little bit easier. I have to try to take this in a Bill Cosby direction. I'm just saying, you know, I'm just saying, you know, it's the it's the it's the it's the great social lubricant for you. So does that sound familiar to you?

00:34:24:13 - 00:34:31:19
Andrew
Yeah. Yeah, that's one of the things that is that I keep thinking of that YouTube video where, like, the nail in the head video.

00:34:31:21 - 00:34:32:13
Dennis
Where. Oh, yeah.

00:34:32:13 - 00:34:38:08
Dennis
It's not about the nail. It's not about the nail. Absolutely. Great video.

00:34:38:10 - 00:34:43:18
Andrew
Well, we'll link it in the description. It's one of those ones where you see it. You're like exactly like if you just.

00:34:43:20 - 00:34:45:06
Dennis
My head hurts.

00:34:45:08 - 00:34:50:07
Andrew
But like, I can't put my finger on it. And what if we just pulled the nail out and.

00:34:50:09 - 00:34:51:21
Dennis
Like, yeah, it was pulled.

00:34:51:21 - 00:34:53:23
Andrew
Analogy. It's not about the nail.

00:34:54:00 - 00:34:56:07
Dennis
The oh yeah. Yeah.

00:34:56:07 - 00:35:03:21
Andrew
It's hilarious. We'll add it. We'll add it in the notes for sure. But, so what are bothersome? Oh go ahead.

00:35:03:22 - 00:35:21:13
Dennis
I was just going to say that's it. That's a classic example. A chicken sitting there saying, I can't understand why my head is achy and I'm getting all these snags on my sweaters or whatever. And there's a dude sitting there, like licking his fingernails, looking at the wall, going, so I I've learned from experience, I'm not supposed to say, you have the nail in your head.

00:35:21:15 - 00:35:31:19
Dennis
Hey. And then he finally goes, you know, I, I know we keep fighting about this, but if you just took that nail out, she's like, it is not about the nail. Yeah. And he's like, I think it.

00:35:31:19 - 00:35:33:04
Dennis
Is, you know.

00:35:33:06 - 00:36:06:04
Dennis
And and yeah, it's frustrating because men are problem solvers. I want I want to solve the problem. Women. Men want to solve problems and then talk about how they felt. Women want to talk about how they feel as a prerequisite to solving problems. Are there exceptions to the rule? Yes. Is it common enough that warrants, you know, considering, seriously, that there might be a protocol that you can run in a situation where she is feeling unheard?

00:36:06:06 - 00:36:11:02
Dennis
Yes. What's the protocol? Shut up and listen.

00:36:11:04 - 00:36:11:20
Dennis
And don't.

00:36:11:20 - 00:36:41:01
Dennis
Offer unsolicited advice. And when you talk, make it about what you feel rather than what you think. If you're a frickin robot or autistic or something and don't feel, well, that's that's problematic and we'll work on it. But in the meantime, at least do what ChatGPT does and freaking fake it.

00:36:41:03 - 00:36:42:05
Dennis
Because better to fake it.

00:36:42:05 - 00:36:52:15
Dennis
And pretend to be sentient than to just say, yeah, I'm not. Yeah. The kitten died. Yeah, that that's hard. Whatever, I don't care. Yeah.

00:36:52:17 - 00:37:06:12
Andrew
So what are some other common threads that you see coming out of that book, and how do you leave them into your your coaching in the relationship realm?

00:37:06:14 - 00:37:40:09
Dennis
One of the big ones is that. Here. Tomorrow is my birthday. Okay. So, I hit double nickels tomorrow. We are going out to dinner, but because Saturdays, our date night, comically, I'm taking us to dinner and paying for it. So it's not exactly a birthday dinner, but anyway, so I was downstairs earlier today, and she said, hey, just to let you know, I'm making you ribs.

00:37:40:11 - 00:38:05:04
Dennis
I was like, oh, well, that's nice. She's like, yes, I figured since we're going out tomorrow, you know, I'd make your ribs. I know you like ribs and like, that's really nice. So. For me, the fact that she made me ribs is like a 30 to 50 point gesture. I don't know, maybe I'm going to pick go to pick that rib up and the meat's kind of drop off the bone.

00:38:05:04 - 00:38:37:07
Dennis
And I'm going to look at her with like I love you eyes and just be like, you're just the best person ever. And that's going to resonate with me for like the next couple of weeks to a month. So the next time she does something annoying, I'll be like, oh, she did make those ribs again. By contrast with women, it's you get one point for anything you do, and no matter how small or how grandiose.

00:38:37:09 - 00:39:05:23
Dennis
So that means that if you leave her a little love note, you get a point for that. If you send her a text and say morning, beautiful, you get a note for that. If you see her dishes in the sink and you wash them, you get a note for that. If you notice that the laundry or a point for that if you if you see the, you know, a load of laundry and it's kid laundry and you normally don't mess with the kid laundry, let her do that.

00:39:05:23 - 00:39:28:12
Dennis
But this time for no good reason. You take it all out and you lay it out on the bed, and you fold it all and put it nicely in the dress. You get a point for that. If you fly her to Hawaii and you spend a week there and you pay, special local tour guide to show you the spots nobody else knows about, you take a helicopter to the place where they actually film Jurassic Park.

00:39:28:14 - 00:39:30:18
Dennis
You go somewhere where you can actually.

00:39:30:18 - 00:39:34:17
Dennis
Swim naked in the crystal blue.

00:39:34:17 - 00:39:38:07
Dennis
Waters of kawaii or whatever. When you.

00:39:38:07 - 00:39:41:10
Dennis
Get home.

00:39:41:12 - 00:39:54:23
Dennis
The following day, she's going to be frustrated because of something, and you're going to say, I just took you to Hawaii. Like, seriously, what the hell? And sorry, Charlie, you only got one point for that.

00:39:55:00 - 00:39:56:14
Dennis
What does that tell you?

00:39:56:16 - 00:40:27:22
Dennis
It tells you stop trying to be grandiose with your gestures and imagining that flowers and candy, or watching The Bachelor with her or whatever buys you any time it doesn't. It's one point. So frequency of gestures is critical. Pause for emphasis. So one, what should you do?

00:40:27:24 - 00:40:50:14
Dennis
You should give her opportunities to talk to. What should you do when she talks? You should seem to care extra credit if you actually do care. But it's kind of like her pretending the like giving blowjobs. You don't really care because she can convince you that she's into it. That's good enough. It's like porn.

00:40:50:16 - 00:40:54:04
Dennis
Oh, yeah? Yeah. Oh, dad.

00:40:54:04 - 00:41:16:12
Dennis
Yeah, daddy. Yeah. And you're like, okay, I guess this will work. She's the same way. You're like, oh, that sounds hard. And she's like, it is. Yeah, that's a bummer. You must have been really angry at those girls at your job. I really was just not going to delve and be like, are you just saying that it's enough?

00:41:16:14 - 00:41:17:01
Dennis
That's all she.

00:41:17:01 - 00:41:18:09
Dennis
Wants. Just wants.

00:41:18:14 - 00:41:19:02
Dennis
Wants you.

00:41:19:02 - 00:41:19:14
Dennis
To.

00:41:19:16 - 00:41:44:01
Dennis
Seem to give a shit. Also, gestures of appreciation. Repeat them regularly. Good morning, I love you. Good afternoon, I love you. Good evening, I love you. Hey, I washed your dishes. Hey. I, want to talk, but. Hey, do you want to watch some stupid chick flick that I'd never in a million years want to watch and cuddle and, you know, eat some ice cream together?

00:41:44:04 - 00:42:11:00
Dennis
I know I should, but whatever that is, is crazy. I'm just living off, living on the edge. Hey, you know what? Today's a work. But what do you say we just take off and go grab brunch together at that little cafe that we both like? Whatever. And it's regular. It's regular gestures. The only other thing I can think from that book, besides.

00:42:11:02 - 00:42:24:09
Dennis
Besides that, that's really a good take away. Besides the fact that men isolate and women need to talk and frequency of gestures.

00:42:24:11 - 00:42:45:10
Dennis
It's the understanding that men have a tendency to want to leave things the way they are. And women have a tendency to always want to change things, and it drives men nuts. It's like a dog. And she just keeps rearranging the furniture and it's like, damn it. Like every time I get used to where everything is, you want to do this fun fact?

00:42:45:12 - 00:43:08:20
Dennis
Deal with it. She likes change, pattern, interruption, pattern interruption. You're having restarted with sex, right? Your sex life is boring. Try introducing pattern interruption. Do something different this weekend. Take a trip. Go to a different state. Stay in an Airbnb.

00:43:08:22 - 00:43:29:05
Dennis
Get a sitter for the kids. Wear a different, different clothes. Start wearing buttoned down shirts. If you wear a button gen shirts, start wearing t shirts or sweaters. Change your Cologne. Do something different to make her feel like, oh, what is this? Women love novelty.

00:43:29:07 - 00:44:01:09
Dennis
And more than anything else, just in case you missed it the first time, Cyndi Lauper expressed this very important sentiment. Girls, they want to have fun and. That's all they really want. So be fun. Very sexy. Very sexy. Your fun guy? Very sexy. What does fun look like? Not a dick. Unless you're a fun dick. That's that's another.

00:44:01:13 - 00:44:04:11
Dennis
That's another episode.

00:44:04:13 - 00:44:07:17
Dennis
What else you got? What else you want it?

00:44:07:19 - 00:44:48:23
Andrew
Well, I mean, I think we covered a lot along the lines that, you know, as as the guys that are, you know, maybe they hit a wall when it comes to the amount of sex they're getting right. Beat that one pretty good. Did we miss anything? Like, as we as you know, if I'm a guy listening to this, is there anything that they're asking or, like, saying, like, hey, but you left something out, like, is there anything that you could think of those, like, we didn't cover in this episode that we should?

00:44:49:00 - 00:45:13:02
Dennis
This sounds like a weird one, but and I'm not going to dwell on it, but I'm just kind of put it out there. There is a difference between good sex and bad sex by, you know, female standards. And I think a big part of the reason a lot of women end up in relationships where they don't want to have sex is sex is kind of wack.

00:45:13:04 - 00:45:25:24
Dennis
And that's because he's not really, educated on how to be a good lover for her.

00:45:26:01 - 00:45:31:00
Dennis
And,

00:45:31:02 - 00:45:31:14
Dennis
I don't want.

00:45:31:14 - 00:45:59:05
Dennis
To make this weird. Right? And start getting, like, to, like, you know, right. Traffic and stuff. But it's a good idea to talk to your wife, like, or your girlfriend or whatever, your long term partner, and to be willing to get a bad report card on how good and how good of a lover you are. One of the things I always did, I mean, I mean, I'm in a relationship.

00:45:59:05 - 00:46:21:04
Dennis
It's a long term relationship. And we have a healthy, you know, we have we have intimacy. And at 55, you know, that's pretty good. And, when I was younger, even though I was an attractive little guy and then all the other parts worked and, you know, I was ending up with some pretty girls and they were seem to be super into it or whatever.

00:46:21:06 - 00:46:27:03
Dennis
I would still always say, like, hey, I want you to be honest with me. Like, what's work and what is it like?

00:46:27:05 - 00:46:28:05
Dennis
Now you're the best.

00:46:28:06 - 00:46:35:01
Dennis
I'm like, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. Shut up. Really? What's working like?

00:46:35:03 - 00:46:35:22
Dennis
No, everything.

00:46:35:22 - 00:47:03:22
Dennis
I just like you, I get it, you like me. I like you, too. But be honest. Like, if I could improve in an area, where would it be? And I'll say something like. Okay, will you like. Because, like, not like if you're on top and, you know, I have long hair, like, be careful not to like put your like hands or elbows or something on my hair because it like traps my head and it kind of hurts.

00:47:03:24 - 00:47:16:09
Dennis
Or there's this thing you do where you put your hands on the side of my head, and you're saying something really sweet, I'm sure, but I don't know what it is because you're actually kind of covering my ears. And I always find that distracting. So.

00:47:16:11 - 00:47:18:00
Dennis
You know, like I.

00:47:18:01 - 00:47:36:06
Dennis
And you're like, oh, okay. Or hey, when you whatever, when you go down on me, I think you have this like one thing that you always do, but like, I, I'd like it if we could kind of like, change that up and I'd be like, okay, well, like, can you show me? Oh, my God, I don't want to.

00:47:36:08 - 00:47:37:14
Dennis
What? Not? Come on.

00:47:37:14 - 00:47:38:10
Dennis
And it's the.

00:47:38:10 - 00:48:09:00
Dennis
Intimacy of communicating about some of those things in sex that can be uncomfortable, that makes it like watch a chick flick sometimes. It's like the awkwardness in in sex. It's part of what makes it real and part of what makes it intimate. And guys are such performers that they're always looking to be like, oh yeah, I'm doing the thing to you, you know?

00:48:09:00 - 00:48:27:19
Dennis
Yeah, I'm I got you have a need to feel the thunder. Yeah. You know, and it's like she's like, yeah. Now I have to play along with this dumb shit. Like, it feels nice, but you're not rocking my world as hard as I think you imagine. So it's like they really want you to be present with them.

00:48:27:21 - 00:48:34:01
Dennis
I mean, if you can't laugh while you're having sex, you're doing it wrong.

00:48:34:03 - 00:48:35:00
Dennis
I just see laughing at you.

00:48:35:01 - 00:48:40:07
Dennis
That's a that's so different. The you know.

00:48:40:09 - 00:48:45:01
Dennis
But do you understand what I'm saying? Communication is critical.

00:48:45:03 - 00:49:18:08
Andrew
Yeah. I so glad you brought this up, because I think that it's one of those things that there's so much ego attached to sex. Right? To her. That's why women fake it is a fake. It for you. They like it because they think if they don't fake it, they're going to hurt your feelings, right? Oh yeah. So having that communication and those moments of like, you know, because most guys they learn you know, usually in their younger but maybe you know with maybe you're out of a relationship and getting back into one and previous partner.

00:49:18:10 - 00:50:03:05
Andrew
Women are built different right. Like one likes one like thing different than the others do. So having that open communication of like speed and level of touch and how hard and how fast and how soft and you know, all of those different things, asking for feedback and maybe even bringing the toy into the bedroom and allowing that to be some assistance and, you know, releasing your ego there, like all of those different elements that I think there's a lot of guys out there that just maybe have too big of an ego to have that conversation, but maybe that's the reason why you're not having more of the sex that you actually want to be having.

00:50:03:05 - 00:50:16:02
Andrew
And and who knows, maybe you all of a sudden it becomes more enjoyable, more fun, and and you crack the oyster. Crack her up, and all of a sudden you're like, whoa, what did I unlock?

00:50:16:04 - 00:50:16:17
Dennis
Right?

00:50:16:17 - 00:50:34:07
Dennis
I was just going to say, careful what you wish for, but. Right. I mean, it's a slippery slope and, you know, and and it's funny because there are, you know, I imagine, like, it's scared sex is so weird, right? Because on one hand, you got somebody who's like, you know, well, Jesus says or whatever. It's like, all right.

00:50:34:08 - 00:50:47:07
Dennis
There's also a whole Old Testament full of begets like that begetting happens somehow, you know, be fruitful and multiply. So it's like, you know, Song of Solomon is like, you know, some pretty spicy stuff.

00:50:47:09 - 00:50:49:14
Dennis
So, so.

00:50:49:14 - 00:51:23:22
Dennis
Like, I think for the people who are super. Like uncomfortable with talking about sex with their partner, what happens is that they then have this real, like, sort of bizarre relationship with porn, where they're expressing themselves, their desires through their, you know, porn habits, and they're not showing that same side of themselves healthily with their partner.

00:51:23:24 - 00:51:52:09
Dennis
There's a way to have both, but you just have to be willing to be open and honest and say, you know, hey, first and foremost, I love you and I just want to be with you and being with you feels good. But after that, like, what's your jam like? Real talk. Like, what are you into? Like, can we just be friends here and talk to that?

00:51:52:09 - 00:52:20:16
Dennis
And, and when you can get your partner to talk to you the way she would talk to a girlfriend. Like, I know this sounds weird, but I kind of like it if she would do this, but I don't know how to say it. If you can get her to have enough trust and enough like just a comfort level to be able to talk to you about that stuff, it's literally that closeness that's going to make it feel different.

00:52:20:18 - 00:52:48:19
Dennis
And you might surprise as a guy to discover that you're responding differently to her because you are feeling her genuine interest, presence and arousal. So if your dude is not getting any and you want to get some, you feel like I don't need it all, I just want some.

00:52:48:21 - 00:52:50:15
Dennis
You just,

00:52:50:17 - 00:52:55:16
Dennis
So can I have some, Well, the way to get some.

00:52:55:18 - 00:52:57:00
Dennis
Is to.

00:52:57:00 - 00:53:10:01
Dennis
Discuss with your partner. Hey, look, I don't want to make it weird, but I love you. I feel like we could be having more physical together. And.

00:53:10:03 - 00:53:11:14
Dennis
Also.

00:53:11:16 - 00:53:33:21
Dennis
Make sure before you have that conversation that you're checking all the romantic boxes that you're doing, the things you are being regular with her in your expressions of love. You are being a good listener. You're not being disrespectful to her. You're not being a dick to her because that's a turnoff. You're not taking her for granted. You're not mansplaining everything to her like she's a fucking child.

00:53:33:23 - 00:54:00:16
Dennis
You know? You're addressing her as a human and making sure that she feels happy and safe and empowered and all of those things, and that she feels like an equal partner in the relationship. Those are kind of prerequisites. And if that's not there, then get it out of your head that you have and she has some obligation to be a receptacle for your, you know, sexual energy.

00:54:00:18 - 00:54:10:21
Dennis
But if those things are there and it's still not happening, then discuss it and be willing to take chances that reintroduce intimacy, that's that's it right there.

00:54:10:23 - 00:54:12:15
Dennis
Fill me.

00:54:12:17 - 00:54:13:12
Andrew
Yeah, man.

00:54:13:14 - 00:54:15:03
Dennis
Does that hit?

00:54:15:05 - 00:54:34:20
Andrew
Yeah. I think we covered a lot of bases today. And there's there's certainly some more peels. We can go off the onion. But I feel like it's a good time to round off the episode and close it out. So any closing comments to send the guys, you know, to their holidays? And hopefully getting getting lucky on the new year or the.

00:54:34:22 - 00:54:39:05
Dennis
Have some holly jolly hopping happy humpty hump.

00:54:39:07 - 00:54:40:03
Dennis
Day Hanukkah.

00:54:40:05 - 00:54:41:17
Dennis
Happy.

00:54:41:19 - 00:55:15:07
Dennis
Kwanzaa got fill me. No, I mean, listen, so I guess we, Yeah, I guess we're just silly here. It's the last session of the of the, of the year, I believe. And, Yeah, if you're if you're not having the intimacy that you would like to have, maybe a New Year's resolution for you is, I'm going to improve the way I show up, and, that will be, maybe a way to get some more, clean the slate, get rid of some resentment.

00:55:15:09 - 00:55:37:09
Dennis
Create room for loving and for intimacy. And that will invariably lead to some of the other stuff that you probably are, like, champing at the bit to see happen in the bedroom. As far as the year itself goes. Listen, it's been a crazy year. 2025 has been something different. If you made it this far, congratulations.

00:55:37:09 - 00:55:57:06
Dennis
Not everybody did. This has been a rough one. Dennis. Procopio, I'm the bro coach. I've seen him lives out here. So if your biggest problem is you're not getting as much poon as you would like, you know, let me get let me tell you, there's there's some guys who who didn't make it to to December. So let's just put everything in perspective.

00:55:57:08 - 00:56:10:20
Dennis
I appreciate you for listening. If you want to follow us for more tips and tricks. You know, you know where to find us. But otherwise, happy holidays. Happy New Year, and we'll see you on the other side.